Personal: Broken Family
I recently took up a new tuition assignment which was under Life Community's Friends of Children (FOC) program. Life Community - FOC is a non-profit organisation which helps under privileged children or youths.
Basically, one of the parent has been or had been incarcerated for the child / youth to be qualified to receive help from FOC or FOY.
I'm not here to advertise about this community but I feel strongly about what they do. They will help to pay the tuition fees for these children and also pay for the assessment books. To me, this is such a generous move.
I come from a broken family myself. I'm lucky my mom was extremely hardworking and I went through with my studies without much financial difficulty (at least for my food, books and necessity). I do know that my mom was struggling very hard to just get by that's why I started to teach tuition in my JC days just to cover my own expenses to lighten her load.
When I look at the condition my tutee is in, I can't help but see certain similarities. Tutee A stays in a 3-room flat with her grandparents. When I asked about her parents, in particular, mother......sad to hear that she has no recollection of her mom at all. She has not seen her and she doesn't visit them. My heart ached when I heard that especially when she sounded so indifferent.
Then, it got me wondering if it's better if I have no memory of my dad at all. Would it be a lot more easier for me than now when I struggle with the beautiful memories of him being nice and his heartless departure.
On hindsight, I guess I wouldn't be who I am today if he had stayed on. I wouldn't be as independent now. It's weird but sometimes I do feel grateful that he left as I'm very sure I wouldn't have the same amount of freedom and trust my mother gave me. I would've missed out on many things, many friends whom I made, probably many opportunities that came around.
I survived it and I'll make sure my tutee can too. I came from a single-parent family and I'm proud of it. I should never feel ashamed since I'm not the one who's in the wrong and got us into this shit. Those of you out there who is trying to or had tried to or had successfully tried to fuck your family/children up can go fuck yourself. You don't deserve anyone's sympathy or help. You do not know how many lives you've destroyed. Not many will turn out like me. I look fine from the outside but I'm scarred emotionally.
Basically, one of the parent has been or had been incarcerated for the child / youth to be qualified to receive help from FOC or FOY.
I'm not here to advertise about this community but I feel strongly about what they do. They will help to pay the tuition fees for these children and also pay for the assessment books. To me, this is such a generous move.
I come from a broken family myself. I'm lucky my mom was extremely hardworking and I went through with my studies without much financial difficulty (at least for my food, books and necessity). I do know that my mom was struggling very hard to just get by that's why I started to teach tuition in my JC days just to cover my own expenses to lighten her load.
When I look at the condition my tutee is in, I can't help but see certain similarities. Tutee A stays in a 3-room flat with her grandparents. When I asked about her parents, in particular, mother......sad to hear that she has no recollection of her mom at all. She has not seen her and she doesn't visit them. My heart ached when I heard that especially when she sounded so indifferent.
Then, it got me wondering if it's better if I have no memory of my dad at all. Would it be a lot more easier for me than now when I struggle with the beautiful memories of him being nice and his heartless departure.
On hindsight, I guess I wouldn't be who I am today if he had stayed on. I wouldn't be as independent now. It's weird but sometimes I do feel grateful that he left as I'm very sure I wouldn't have the same amount of freedom and trust my mother gave me. I would've missed out on many things, many friends whom I made, probably many opportunities that came around.
I survived it and I'll make sure my tutee can too. I came from a single-parent family and I'm proud of it. I should never feel ashamed since I'm not the one who's in the wrong and got us into this shit. Those of you out there who is trying to or had tried to or had successfully tried to fuck your family/children up can go fuck yourself. You don't deserve anyone's sympathy or help. You do not know how many lives you've destroyed. Not many will turn out like me. I look fine from the outside but I'm scarred emotionally.
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